I REVEAL THE SHOCKING TRUTH OF HOW I WASTED OVER 6 YEARS IN MY COACHING BUSINESS TRYING TO BE LIKE ALL OF THE OTHER COACHES!
In this article I reveal exactly what happened once I made a commitment with myself that I was going to go all in with being unapologetically ALL OF ME in my online coaching business!
Posted In Mindset | Posted On January 31 2023 | Posted By Admin
Do you know that you are SWEET PERFECTION - just exactly as you are?
And I'm writing this not just to tell you this "FLUFF" just to be nice and coo B.S into your ear........ but I have EVIDENCE that you are perfect just exactly as you are!
And I think you're gonna want to hear me out.
See I've been a Business Coach & Mentor for just over 8 years now and I've spent 7 of all of those years just wishing and praying that I was somebody else! Another Coach. A "successful confident coach."
Anyone but me really! (sad......but nonetheless..... it's true)
Back in March 2019, I was invited to be one of the speakers at a big HUGE social media event in San Diego (it was the one before covid anyways) and I remember seeing the line up of international speakers and social media influencers. Gorgeous pristine model-like creatures that floated onto the stage like weightless spirits. A line up of "perfect coaches"..... or so I thought.
And even though I had had my own fair share of successes...... like 1. Reaching 7 figures in my Coaching Business 2. Meeting Sir Richard Branson in person 3. Co-authoring an international bestselling book in more than 20 different countries 4. Being the sole cause and catalyst for success for 100's of online business owners...............the sad truth remained constant...... that I didn't want to be "me" I wanted to one of those gorgeous Hollywood Rockstar Supermodel Coaches.
And so what happened was that I cancelled this event and I told them I could not make it!
Basically I was too chicken to go to it! I didn't feel "good enough" to do it and I thought they must have made a mistake inviting me!
And for years I ran my coaching business just trying to be somebody else..........just anyone BUT ME!
I tried to post like the other coaches. I tried to run programs like the other coaches. I tried to BE like the other coaches.
"Fake it till you make it Abigail!" I told myself!
Only I couldn't actually "fake" being slim and gorgeous and tanned and looking like a Baywatch Beach Babe dressed in Boss Babe clothing! (and don't get me wrong not all of the Coaches were like that....but a lot of them were!)
So what ended up happening was that I ran my whole coaching business for years in a state of misalignment with who I really am deep inside!
In fact I had lost all sense of who I was by this time! I was busy busy busy doing alll the things I was learning in these massive big group programs.
Other weird things started to happen. Like I would promise a, b and c to my clients when actually I taught x,y and z.
And even weirder things...............some of my students told me I should be doing things like "growing a team" and "building systems and funnels" and people in my audience were telling me I "should not be doing f, g and h and instead I should be doing t, u and v.
This whole situation quickly spiralled out of control where not a day would go by when someone did not comment on something or inbox me telling me I was not doing things right!
I would promise to go live at a certain time just to please people and knowing that I would not be able to make that time and I would be late!
And then everyone would get super frustrated with me (including me!)
I was a loose canon and totally out of control! My self esteem was in the gutter and I had complete business novices who didnt even have a business telling me what I should be doing! And the really weird thing was that I never seemed to see this happening to anyone else!
So now I come full circle to show you HOW I KNOW that you are SWEET PERFECTION just as you are!..... Well HERE'S MY EVIDENCE!
Very few Coaches could be in a worse state than I was during this time even though my income was really good...just about everything else was a sodding $hit$how!
From the moment I woke up to the minute I went to bed I felt like I was failing everyone around me. (I didnt even think I might be failing myself!)
But then 2022 came......and punched me in the face! Lets just say #worstyearEVERbarnone.
And then suddenly I just woke up one day (I don't know which day it was specifically) but I DECIDED JUST TO BE FULLY UNAPOLOGETICALLY MYSELF!
I decided to back myself and go fully all-in on what i means to JUST BE ME!
I decided to take unsolicited advice from random people about my business with a pinch of salt.
I decided that it was totally OK if someone did not like me or they did not follow my coaching methods.
I decided to take full charge of my working hours deciding that I would go live and do trainings whenever worked best for ME and I decided to work Tuesday-Saturday 3-4 hours per day MAX.
I decided to STOP working once I felt as though I had successfully accomplished my work for that particular day.
I decided to say yes also to 3 meals per day and regular drinks and breaks.
I basically decided to go ALL IN and SAY YES TO ME, and YES TO MY LIFE too!
The BIGGEST DECISION I MADE was that I decided to go ALL IN ON MY ONE POST A DAY METHOD.....
And SAY YES to my method of getting fully booked with dream clients just with ONE POST PER DAY!
And do you know what................? It's totally working!
And I know I believed in it and I believed in myself but I am totally utterly completely GOBSMACKED folks!
I cannot believe after all of these years of me trying to be someone else.........actually now that I've decided to go ALL IN on being fully me. Fully unapologetically me.....now I have dream clients lining up in my DMs to talk to me.
I am booking new clients into our Booked Out Mastermind every single week.
I am finally for the first time in my business....showing up fully as me, in the way that I want and doing what I want on my own terms!
And the really shocking thing for me is that I'm working basically in a way that all of the Coaches on all of those group coaching programs that I purchased during those first 5 years of my coaching business - I am showing up and doing just about everything that they said "not" to do!
Have a website! NO
Have a Sales Funnel! NO
Do live launches! NO
Run Facebook Ads! NO
Do an evergreen webinar! NO
Post several times a day across all channels! NO
Repurpose your posts ! NO!
Schedule your free trainings for a set time each week! NO!
Eat that frog first! NO!
Do lots of video content and short form videos! NO!
Seriously all I do is I get up and I write my ONE POST A DAY......it's not eating a frog because this is the work I love the most. This is the work I really enjoy.
I work 2-3 further hours per day Tuesday-Saturday doing a very specific and quietly methodical set of strategic tasks.
And NOBODY is coming up to me now and telling me I should be doing a,b,c and 1,2,3! NOBODY!
And when people ask me what time I am going LIVE I say "when I feel like it - you can set your notifications to see all or you can watch the replay!"
I also quit worrying about what my content was going to be. It just is what it is and I trust that whatever it is will come out in the right way!
And so I tell you this.....ALL of this...........in the hope that I might deeply impact just one person who is done with trying to emulate everyone else out there and who is ready to be just unapologetically themselves!
I tell you this because actually being unapologetically yourself really is THE SWEET SPOT for both you AND your business!
And for those of you who are keen to join my brand new 12 month Booked Out Coach Mastermind with $1000 off TODAY ONLY (the offer was by the end of January) then please do read all about it in my pinned post on my Facebook Profile.
This is a hybrid offer where I work closely with you for 30 days teaching you all of my strategies for the ONE POST METHOD and getting you all set up and running and then we work together as a group for a further 11 months.
This is an incredible life and business transformational offer for female empathic coaches who really do value having a worklife balance. You have 2+ years experience in the online coaching and educating space and you must enjoy the creativity and have a flair for the written word (although some of your posts can also be video/podcast posts)
I will link my offer in the comments below. If you have any questions please feel free to DM me as its worth a conversation with this offer expiring TODAY! You never know - it might be for you even if you think it's not!
But regardless of my Booked Out Coach Mastermind, always remember that I have the evidence that you are absolutely PERFECT just the way you are. Don't let anybody else hold the power of dimming your light.
You'll be seeing me next year on that stage in San Diego for sure!
Now I want to see you go fully all in on being unapologetically YOU.
Lots of love
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